written by Mick Ukleja

Here Is The #1 Overlooked Ingredient For Personal Growth

 

desire3As we approach this year’s closure, what is the #1 quality that will propel us into the new year – with a head start? It will be your desire.

Desire is the fire within!

So let’s take the time to measure your desire meter.

If I want to get an idea of a person’s desire to grow and develop I ask a simple question.  “Are you satisfied with your life right now?”  If the answer is, “I’m very satisfied, very content with where I am”, I come to the conclusion that there is very little potential for future growth.  Being content is only part of life’s equation for happiness.

When contentment is used to “cap off” growth it becomes detrimental.

Desire is the first key to personal growth.

Whenever you learn, feel, or know something, desire was already there waiting.  It’s the vehicle that carries you where you need to go.

I want to light a fire under some people, but I soon discover that I’ve run out of matches!

They aren’t going anywhere and that’s okay.  It’s their choice and not my responsibility.  It’s okay and I’ll love them where they are.

For me personally, I still have passion. I have desires.  I’m not all that I want to be nor have I accomplished all that I want to accomplish.

Think about who you are becoming and where that person will eventually take you.

I had the privilege of interviewing Coach John Wooden on his 96th birthday.  I ask this question: “Coach.  You are 96 today.  How do you stay so enthusiastic and passionate about life?” His answer has stuck like a piece of shrapnel in my brain.

“The day your past becomes more exciting than your future is the day you start to die.”

I am not yet all that I want to be, nor have I accomplished all that I want to accomplish.  That fire within you and me is called desire.

What new advantage will you have because you have grown?

So keep the engines stoked.  This is what I call a healthy dissatisfaction* as we enjoy the present and live each day to the fullest.

Your desire will get you out of the comfort zone where no growth takes place.

Contentment and satisfaction are good things, but were never intended to be synonyms for petrified, fossilized, or calcified.

At times our desire-lights on the dashboard of our lives grow dim.  Those are the times when you keep the engine running.  Eventually you will see your desire meter rev up and you are on your way!

“The starting point of all achievement is desire.” Napolean Hill

Weak desires bring weak results.  Just as weak fires leave us a little cold.  And they’re not much to look at either.

Avoid the Flame Busters.  This is the crowd that wonders why you’re pushing yourself forward.  If your desire is low, check the company you’re keeping.

Dissatisfaction can be divine and becomes the fuel that feeds desire.

As children we had lots of ideas about what we wanted to do when we grew up.  A child’s imagination isn’t restricted by the boundaries of age, inexperience, education, and parental control.  They just imagine the future they want, and it’s fueled by desire. But it’s easy to let the restrictions of adulthood get in the way of doing what we desire. So we douse it.  Many of our boundaries are self-imposed. The real danger starts by putting limitations on your thinking.

While you’re thinking, think BIG! You can always act small later.

Do you want a head start for the coming season? These will help break the imagination gridlock.

  • What are the things I would like to do well?
  • What are the experiences I would like to have?
  • What do I want to start doing right now?
  • What are five non-negotiable values in my life?
  • What things, events, or activities make me feel fully alive?
  • What have I let slide? Why?
  • What can I do now to reverse that?

“A ship in the harbor is safe, but that’s not what ships are built for.”       William Shedd

*Healthy Dissatisfaction = starting each day with thanksgiving for what you are and have, knowing your life is better than you deserve, yet realizing your life is not all you want it to be. It’s a combination of contentment and desire.  

Here’s the formula: Healthy Dissatisfaction = Contentment + Desire

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12.10.2014

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